I would like to ask for advice about my current situation, my girlfriend (26) and I (31) have been together for 2 months now and we really have lots in common and always have a great time together but! I am an IT guy so I am into technology very much and currently own a Nintendo Switch.
I really quite enjoy some video games (like Hand of fate 2, dark souls, doom, etc..), it is a way to entertain myself, to clear my head a bit after work and I do not play much at all, around 6 hours per week and some weeks I do not play at all.
The thing is, she despises video games from the bottom of her heart, her position is quite radical. I do not get why, when I try to explain why I like to play her answer is something like "-video games are for freaky and creepy nerds-" and that's it! I cannot discuss any further about it, she just doesn't hear me at all.
I could just sell my console and not play anymore, but I would like to first try to make her understand me, since she does not give me any reasonable answer about it so I would like to ask for some advice:
How can I explain to her that it is something I enjoy?
Thanks a lot in advance.
To add some more details about it, our relationship is pretty new and this is the first major disagreement we have had so far.
I have tried so little to be honest because she just does not want to listen, like really, she just says things like "no no, that's for creepies, for smelly nerds" and stuff like that, I have tried to explain to her:
- That it is no different from watching series or movies (which she does).
- That I only play in my spare time when we do not meet normally after work and would never prefer to play instead of meeting her or doing something together.
- To explain that it helps me to clear my mind after work.
I actually tried to show her and explain a video game once and after 20 seconds she told me "are we going to do something else?" and that was it, I just turned it off.
I was quite surprised because our communication is very good actually, we have discussed important matters openly in a very productive way, but with this topic she gets just too aggressive.
Thanks again for your answers.