In online dating, people often find themselves in a situation where they are in contact with someone but do not want to continue the encounter and need to terminate it somehow. Doing this in a good way for both the person wanting to end the contact and the recipient of the rejection is not always easy. As a result, some people simply stop writing, hoping the other person won't write again and will eventually "go away".
I'm not happy with this solution, as I know how stressful it can be to wait for a reply that doesn't come. For that reason, I want to let the other person know that I'm no longer interested, but now I don't know how to do this best.
I don't want to explain the actual reason. I have found that this can be rather hurtful, especially if it hits on a nerve where the other person is sensitive. Also, it invites discussions and retaliation. (I have especially found "You're not my type" – recommended here – to lead to unpleasant return messages.)
I also don't want to devalue the effort the other person put into writing me or the exchange that might have been going on by a brief (and cold) declaration of disinterest.
So what is a good way to break of contact in online dating?
- not hurtful (even to sensitive persons)
- not a lot of work (for me)