Let's consider the following situation: a family member has offered to buy me a given object as a gift, for example a table, with a given budget, for example 500€ (random object and amount of money).
I am to pick the precise kind of table I'd like. Let's now imagine that I have found a table that I love but that it costs 750€.
How can I add the missing 250€ myself without seeming ungrateful and/or hurting the person's feelings?
Of course if the person gives me money and lets me buy the table myself there is no problem as I could just pay for the difference directly, but I would like to know how to handle this situation if the person wishes to go shop for the gift herself or together with me.
What I would like to achieve is that
- The person contributes to whatever extent is comfortable for her, even lower than the initial amount offered (and I'm very grateful for that)
- I add the missing money without hurting the person
- I get the table I like