My girlfriend and I, both 17 years old, have been together for about two months now. Character-wise, we both are what you'd probably call a little nerdy; we want to make career and so we try to be good in school. Still, we are both totally integrated and we have lots of friends.
A few days after she told me she loved me, we had our first kiss. It was just a regular one but, since it's our first relationship, we found it awkward to kiss when our friends were around, so the next time, we kissed after a date. I kissed her once and tried to continue but she pulled away, which was already kind of irritating to me. The next few times I tried to kiss her (no French kissing ;)), she avoided it and eventually, we talked about it. She had a pretty bad history with other guys, no relationships and nothing serious, but multiple guys treated her very poorly, sexually harassed her and tried to exploit the fact that she trusted them.
She told me that she could understand that I wanted to kiss her and hold her in my arms when watching a movie and stuff, but she also said that it was not good for her because every time I did, she would be afraid because of what had happened to her. I asked her if I could somehow help her with that, but she said she wanted to cope with this herself; obviously, I completely respect that she doesn't want to have too close physical contact, I am in love with her and I want her to be happy, but still, it kind of bothers me.
It may sound cheesy, but I would love to kiss her, watch romantic movies, cuddle and stuff. It's not about sex. For me, it's about her and that I love her, if you understand what I mean. I really want to do all that stuff with her but at the same time, I don't want her to feel awkward or afraid; I don't want to hurt her.
I'm sorry, this was a pretty long text, and due to my bad English, it propably sounds a little weird. My questions are: what do you think can I do to help her get over that? I am really helpless, it's my first real relationship and already I have to cope with a problem like that... Thank you all, in advance.