I have a pair of friends who I like to hang out with a great deal. We like to go out once a week. However, one of these friends refuses to go to any bar more than a few miles from his house. I end up having to travel 30 miles or more to hang out with them. The refusing friend contends that he is unable to travel to my side of town. The refusing friend is not impaired though he does have a somewhat demanding job (no over time challenging deadlines white collar work).
I feel that this is unfair. Why should I always drive the extra distance? I'm not unwilling to drive 30 miles 6 or 8 times a week, but I expect some level of parity -- the 7th or 9th time it would be nice if he came out.
I have tried stating that it would be nice to go to my side of town. He gave me the empty promise of saying we could do that.
I have suggested well known bars on my side of town. He always refuses.
Most recently I spoke with the other friend involved and made plans with him and him alone.
What would be the best way to argue my position? My goal, again, is to achieve some level of parity. Note that he can be extremely standoffish and sees himself as an expert even if himself as an expert.