I obtained qualification Q that is demanded in several European countries. Several countries run programs to recruit Qs internationally and I did apply for jobs in multiple countries.
I did not keep secret that I applied in multiple countries. In country C I was told that having a pending application in another country means that I'm not committed to their recruitment program and I was told that my application would not be pxrogressed until I declare that I'm committed to their program.
Now come the interpersonal skills: based on the suggestive wording I assume that my contact person thinks that her nation C is superior to other European nations and she feels offended that I openly consider other countries rather than (pretend to) admire her country only. She invented administrative excuses why not to progress my application and her boss seems to be happy with these excuses. I'm able to satisfy her fussy administrative requirements.
What could I tell my contact person to make her progress my application? I prefer not to pretend that I admire her nation, because I don't like lying and pretending.
In fact there are many aspects of country C that I value and also many aspects that I don't like. I feel the same way about other countries as well. I also think that having multiple pending job applications is normal, and I plan to commit to the best offer.
1. is your assumption that your contact believes her nation is superior based on anything other than your interpretation of this single interaction?
It is based on suggestive phrasings in multiple emails. My assumption might be wrong, but even if I'm wrong I would like to get interpersonal.stackexchange answers for the situation I assume to be in. Whether I misjudge the situation is a question that could be asked independenty, but that's not my current interest.
2. what frequency and duration of contact would you have with this person once the application process is completed?
I have never met her, I will presumably never meet her. But she is in the position to delay or make my application process difficult.
3. what has led you to be so certain that the administrative issues your contact has raised are simply excuses she found convenient?
I had questions about the future job that I believe she should be able to easily answer. She ignored these questions and focused on certain forms.
4. Recruitment of Qs happens at national levels. I'm only considering 4 countries based on the languages I speak, so giving up on country C is not something I would want to do without careful consideration.