I spent New Year's yesterday at the home of a close friend. I ate dinner at his house along with his family and extended family. I generally enjoy their place except for one thing - lapses in food serving hygiene. For example, yesterday I saw utensils used to handle raw meat being in very close contact with cooked food ready to serve. Hot food was also left out at room temperature for some time before serving.
Today, perhaps not surprisingly, I got the stomach flu with fever, vomiting and stomach cramps. It may have been the food served last night that was to blame. I have known my friend for many years and generally enjoy a good relationship. I really prefer not to strain this relationship through this incident. If I directly confront him, I may be perceived as unappreciative and accusatory. My goal is for him to be more aware of how food can be served more safely, without alienating.
How do I tell my friend to increase their food serving hygiene?
In the worst case scenario, how can I tactfully decline future invitations if food is to be served?