I'm at this stage of life where quite a good part of my friends are getting married. Yay!
Next Summer I'll attend two different weddings. The thing is, I have dietary restrictions (I'm vegan) and although there is a vegan option planned for the guests for the first wedding, I'm not so sure about the second one. Now I'm not able anymore to eat meat, both because of ethics and medical issues. I also have reasons to believe that my friend may have forgotten about the fact that I'm vegan, for it's been years since the last time we shared a meal and I'm not so talkative about my diet.
I do not want to bother my friend with making him plan a vegan meal if I'm the only one with such dietary restrictions at his wedding. In case he and his fiancee are planning a buffet, then I could pick what's suitable for me from it, but in case we'll have plates filled with meat and trimmings I'd be uncomfortable only eating the trimmings and wasting the meat. I can't handle the idea of wasting the meat.
I'm ready to offer to bring my own food but I'm afraid it'd come across as rude. How can I initiate the conversation with my friend to remind him that I'm vegan and very willing to help him facilitate the planning of a meal that would match my dietary restrictions?
Notes & clarifications
- The wedding will take place in a country and a cultural context where food culture mostly revolves around meat (in parties, usually 90% of the plate is meat & the rest is trimmings).
- By "health issues", I mean that I can't digest meat anymore. I've been a vegetarian for 13 years and a vegan for 4, and I have IBS. On the rare occasions where I had nothing to eat but meat, I found myself sick. Call it psychological blocking if you want, but the fact remains: I can't eat meat, or anything that once was alive.
- As far as I know, all that's yet decided is the wedding venue. They didn't mention anything about the menu or anything else yet.
- Eating a vegetarian meal is an option if that could help my friend, as it's usually easier to plan a vegetarian meal than a vegan one.