Yesterday I was instructed to go to a small conference several of my colleagues were attending. It was short in duration and gave everyone the opportunity to socialize a bit after it was finished.
I talked with my new friend (female) again and noticed her makeup. It wasn’t unusual since I last saw her; but, I was especially impressed to compliment her this time. She had really put time into making it look nice and you could definitely see her skill.
Over analyzing my situation, I never actually managed to say anything for fear of a negative response.
Analysis and Goals:
Those of my friends who wear makeup do so for many reasons (insecurities, entertainment, and impressions to name a few).
It’s not necessarily like an article of apparel. Clothing is more impersonal than something that’s put on a main feature of human physique (the face).
What’s concerning is unintentionally making the wearer feel more insecure. Or maybe possessing them with the idea that they should always wear it to receive approval.
The objective is to let them know that: hey, I can really appreciate that you elected to put makeup on and how you orchestrated that decision. The intention is not to make them feel they need my approval or that they need to wear it. I want them to know it’s their choice.
It’s been established that makeup can be a sensitive topic. My intentions are to make my friend feel happy about my compliment and receive a positive response.
How would I compliment a woman’s makeup without making her feel negatively in the ways I’ve mentioned above?