I live in a shared household. I was speaking with someone, call him Bob, in the kitchen. I needed to speak with another roommate, call him Dylan, and asked Bob which room he lives in (Dylan moved in recently and I virtually never go upstairs and this is why I did not know which room was his). Bob told me which room but said he is out. I said I thought I saw him recently and went to knock on his door, and he was indeed out.
Latter Bob cornered me and said he heard the door to his bedroom open and could tell someone had been in there and basically said I had entered his room (which I did not). He also accused me of “challenging him” that I didn’t believe that Dylan wasn’t home. Bob spoke very rudely and acted in a threatening way.
The way I see it there's two possibilities
- he really does think I entered his room even though there's no evidence
- he's trying to get mad at me for something else
I think 2. is more likely because of a recent conversation where he wanted money for house hold goods and I said I wanted to see the receipts (not because I didn't trust his math but because I wanted to see what was purchased, but he felt attacked).
How do I set the boundaries I’m not ok with him speaking to me like this, let alone waiting until I’m alone in the laundry room to make these statements?
It was also Bob who thinks I hacked his computer because my wireless printer shows up as an available device.