For the sake of my friend, I want to convince/ask her to talk to her extended support group about the situation. This is a decision she has to make herself and I really think that it’d help to disclose it to her family.
I am not asking for professional help or advice. The goal is to bring this topic up, telling her what I think, and being a supportive friend.
A little while ago I was informed by my best friend that she was sexually assaulted. I was really hurt to hear this and was overcome with emotions with her; I couldn’t really communicate my thoughts at the time.
She is ashamed of what had happened and has been very discrete in who she’s told; she feels powerless about it.
After I heard about the situation I expressed great support and told her the basics (it wasn’t her fault). I also tried telling her at the time she should tell a close family member about it. They know her better than I do, and are probably more inclined and persuasive to taking action against the assault.
She was too dismissive about it though, and I wasn’t very good at communicating either because I was emotional too. She feels it was her fault and that talking about it with other people will end up making it worse.
The idea is to get her to talk to her close family about the issue and get additional help. I want to convince her that telling them is the better option (I have met them all before and know they’re great people).
I want her to feel that opening up about this will be beneficial to her future and situation; it won’t make things worse than they already are.
It is also imperative I don’t upset things further. I know she’s going through a lot right now, and I definitely don’t want to make things worse. I don’t desire bringing it up when she’s extra sensitive; ideally a time she can digest the topic.
With those goals and situation in mind, how can I ask my best friend to talk to her extended and close support group about her assault, whilst communicating that I think it will be beneficial for her to do so?