First need to tell that I am an Arab muslim and I live and have a fiance in a European country. We've been dating for about 3 months. We have a really good romantic relationship, no conflicts have been during this time. She tells me that she loves me and etc.
And then one day she told me that her coworker (their team leader & manager at the same time) at work after finding out that she has a boyfriend and he is Arab, told her that he searched in the internet and read that Arabs hit & abuse women and that he wouldn't recommend her dating an Arab/muslim man. She did not answer him anything because he is like a boss to her and she does not want to be in bad relationships with him. After a couple of days she asked me to promise her that I'll never abuse her. I made a promise. But there are some things I don't like in this situation, I'll tell what I think and it would be much appreciated if you people share your opinions. Where am I wrong and where I'm right.
Things I don't like:
Why would her team-leader care this much about her relationships that he even spends his time searching the internet about Arabs ? I think this is abnormal to care about your coworkers romantic relationship. Probably he has feelings for her.
I think this is incorrect from her side that she did not defend our relationship. She closed her eyes on her manager trying to ruin our relationship and he's telling racist things. This wrong I think she should have told him to mind his own business. Or am I wrong?
She started doubting me now. Even we never had conflicts and etc, she asked me to give her a promise. I think this means she doesnt love me. She maybe thinks she does, but in reality she doesn't. I think I should end this relationship because it is wrong to be in a romantic relationship with someone you doubt.
This is what I think. Please correct me if I am wrong and share opinion. Thanks!