Last weekend, me and 4 friends (let's call them Alice, Bob, Cody and Danny) wanted to go to another friends place (which I don't know) to have some drinks. The friend, at which the gathering was, also invited some more of his personal friends. I myself and Danny didn't know anyone apart from Alice, Bob and Cody. Since 5 people weren't able to fit into one car, I offered to drive aswell (Alice is not allowed to carry 3 people in the back because there is no seatbelt in the middle, same for my car).
We met at Alice's place to have a little snack and then wanted to drive to the gathering in the nearby city. That's where all started: I didn't get a clear address as where to drive to, so me and Danny (Alice, Bob and Cody were in the other car) just randomly drove to the city, parked and waited for them to pick up the phone. We waited for like 30 minutes until for some very lucky reason, the others passed my car by foot. Bob then told us there was not enough space at the friends place for all of us and that we had to go home again. God knows how long Danny and me would have waited for an answer via phone if they didn't pass the car randomly. Also, Alice and Cody didn't even bother greeting nor saying goodbye.
I know that they might not even had any influence on the situation itself, they at least could have communicated with us quicker/be more upfront and for sure could have said goodbye. Danny and me really had the impression they just don't want us there. All in all, how the scenario played out left a huge feeling of disappointment and lack of respect.
I want to address this behavior and clarifying it was definitly not okay. However, I don't want to rant about it, rather I'd just like to know why they acted that way and if they are capable of doing better in the future. Otherwise I'd cut contact with them, because that wasn't the first time something like that happened (although it was never that harsh before). This was the final nail in the coffin for me. But I just don't want to loose them as friends, because if things work out we always have a ton of fun.
Other things that already happened was them canceling or changing plans last minute, not sticking to already made plans (e.g. going home together after the club or sharing a taxi to save some money), being late all the time and not inviting me to things but then talk about these specific things later when we hang out, not giving money back on their own (I always have to remind them).
I think it's also worth noting that due to work and my upcoming holiday trip I won't be able to address this with them in the next 2 weeks. Is it suitable or worth even trying to sort this issue out via text? I feel like when the time finally comes to talk to them in person it all kind of gets brushed off as if it happened years ago. They did similar things already.