I care about my friends, and I believe its mutual, but I've noticed a trend over the past couple of years.
Nowadays we generally tend to visit eachother's homes rather than go out to bars/restaurants. Usually if I have people over to my place I'll organise games for us to play. To be honest, its because a lot of my friends lack things in common as a group, so games are a great equaliser, and they save us from droning conversation from the one or two gregarious friends (who tend to talk a bit too much about themselves and drown out the others) or limp awkward silences from the shyer friends (who are in the majority).
I'm obviously pretty good at hosting games, because I've now found myself in the position where most of the time I get an invite to a friend's place, I'm asked to bring games for the group to play.
These aren't board games, these are games that take time to prep, advance forethought as to who the guests are and what they'd be comfortable doing. On top of that, on the night I'm running each game, explaining rules etc. I've realised that its pretty exhausting because its so frequent now. My friend might have made us dinner, but it feels like I'm hosting for them the whole night.
Also, I'm not actually outgoing by nature, games were my crutch at my own evenings, and I have a minor level of social anxiety: just enough that it's mentally and emotionally tiring for me to go out and socialise.
I understand that a lot of my friends are on the reserved side, and the strain is taken off them if they have me doing all the icebreaking and getting people into good moods via the games. I also understand that they don't know how tough it is to do, they almost see it as a natural talent rather than something I'm working at.
How can I convey to my friends that this is an issue? My concern is that if I say "I'd really like to just be a guest this time" that the real host will then leave everyone sitting in silence on the night because they won't know how to deal with it. And then... I will end up breaking the silence and rambling on, and trying to get people to talk, because prolonged awkward silences make me nervous... therefore I'll end up with even more stress and work!