A few months ago I moved into a shared house. I really like it here, but as per previous questions there's been some conflicts regarding the rules and expectations of other roommates. I worked really hard and we are now on good terms and I can tell talking to them people are happy. I want to keep it this way.
Several months ago I asked a roommate if we have a rule about listening to music with headphones. Months latter he accused me of being passive aggressive because he had just been listening to music and me asking was implying I wanted him to use headphones. I explained this was not the case and it was an honest question. Another time I found out through my friend (who had originally recommended me to live here) that roommates were mad at me for not cleaning more. On several occasions I had asked them what I could do to help but they wouldn't give a clear answer. I find this passive aggressive telling someone else instead of telling me so I could make a change.
These are just a few examples, and I feel we have moved past them.
I feel now that we are on "good terms" everyone has been very careful not to accidentally offend someone else. This is great but some important conversations need to happen, for example I don't know why the roommate who signed the lease isn't telling the owner repairs need to happen.
I think it's important to add, the house was intended to have a sense of community. Everyone but me is Christian but they said it's ok as trust and respect are the important thing. It's been my observation they avoid the healthy type of conflict (i.e. disagreeing like adults) which results in unhealthy conflict growing under the surface. I think they sort of like having rules imposed on them (like @Astralbee discusses in this answer).
How can I communicate with people who are sensitive and accuse me of being passive aggressive? If it comes down to business, I would prefer to discuss it frankly.