I recently joined a music band that's composed of four colleagues with who I don't work (different projects & teams), but I know them well since we have lunch and banter next to the watercooler together. However, the four of them do work together.
I'm the singer, I'm new to this role (I normally play the guitar and it's the first time I'm in a band). My coworkers have a pretty good level at playing their respective instruments.
Sometimes I make mistakes while singing. For instance, I'd fail to reach a high note, or start a bit too late. I know I perform way better after we already rehearsed a couple of songs, as my voice is warmed up and I'm calmed down. But some days I perform worse than the previous week. Normal stuff, heh?
The thing is, I'm extremely self-critical and sometimes I'd be scared about completely sucking at what I'm doing whereas it's just me freaking out. This band thing is very new to me, so I'd like to have some feedback to know how I can improve. But in the band, the only times when people point out what went wrong, it's only regarding their own practice:
Man, I screwed everything up...
But if I say:
[Laughing] That was very high-pitched. That didn't sound well, or was it okay?
They will literally say nothing. They'd look at me while saying, and then we'd move on to something else.
I don't know why we don't talk about each other's performance, both on the bright and less bright sides. Maybe they don't want to judge the others, in which case I'm totally fine with us not giving feedback to the others. But if it's because they don't dare to critique my performance, I'd like them to let me know, so that I can improve.
How can I invite my coworkers to give me feedback regarding my singing?
I tried asking for direct feedback. "What did you think of that performance, was it okay for you? I feel some parts weren't that great". The thing is, even direct questions don't trigger feedback.
It's not only about my own performance. As a guitarist, I sometimes feel I could give some advice to my coworkers on playing the guitar, but I refrain myself because I'm scared they'd think I'm criticizing them.