Since our son was born (almost a year ago) my wife isn't the same anymore - she is often angry at me and keeps blaming me for all kind of stuff. This has to stop - I can't take it any more.
During this last year I informed myself a lot and tried different approaces to improve the overall mood. I believe I fully realized the increased burden we got with the birth of our child and adapted to the new condition:
- I'm fully engaged in the chores (we also have a cleaning lady comming once a week)
- I'm fully engaged in taking care of our child (and we also got a help from the grandparents)
- I keep in mind that we are still a couple and organize dinners out, field trips, etc.
- I try to be loving, caring and supportive as much as possible.
However it never seems to be enough. As soon as I address a complaint in a best possible way, the bar gets raised and all the things I do is not enough anymore - I really don't understand this. Of course, I tried to talk about it with my wife several times but she doesn't seems to be receptive - I feel she's not putting a lot of effort in trying to find a compromise and even the smallest things (eg. something is out of its usual place) becomes a tragedy.
For over a year now I didn't have an afternoon/evening on my own. As soon as I finish the work I go home - because the help is needed, necessary and demanded. I can deal with that, all I want is a happy wife and a bit of daily free time. Our intimacy became less frequent than before but IMHO the quality and engagement is still high on both parts.
Sometimes she's still that wonderful person I chose to marry but sometimes (too often) she bursts for no apparent reason (using anything as an excuse to do it). I realise that 'the hormones' could contribute to this behaviour but gosh, It's been almost a year since she gave birth to our child, I'd tend to exclude the post-partum syndrome. The only other thing that crosses my mind is a couple therapy. Any suggestions?