I'm 30 years old and I am trying to piece together my family tree. I haven't seen my father since I was 11 but my mother's friend's husband was friends with my father in high school.
I seen these family friends quite a bit when I was growing up and was over at their house playing with their daughter but I haven't spoken to them or seen them since I was a teenager. I have recently added them on my Facebook though.
I want to ask them if they are in contact with my father or maybe even know his birthday/birthplace/other genealogical info.
I don't want to ask my mother because it's a highly-charged, contentious topic, she might not know, and I don't want her to know that I could be looking for my father. I don't really get along with her and she might think that me getting into contact with him will magically fix our relationship.
They ran into my father a few years ago in public so they might have an idea. They all went to high school together.
How can I approach this topic with them? I thought about writing a letter but I am not sure how to make things less awkward and not put them on the spot.
I don't live anywhere near any of them.
My motive is to both collect genealogical information and to possibly hear my father's side of the story.
It's probably not an emotional matter for the family friends but I have not had any contact with them for years so it's awkward and out of the blue.