I have been co-workers with this guy for a little bit over a year but didn’t get to see him often except when we both showed up at company parties.
He seemed to be interested in me. First approached me to start a conversation at one party and then asked me out for a drink at the end of another company get-together. But somehow it felt a bit like a booty call, and I wasn’t in the right place to start anything, so I didn’t take him up on it that time.
After radio silence for almost half a year, he connected me on LinkedIn while I just started a process of leaving this company. He might’ve heard of something. But after we connected, he never texted or interacted with me in any ways.
It’s been another six months, and I’ve been busy with job searches and a lot of stuff in life. Now that things have settled a bit, I would like to at least have a coffee with him and see if there are still possibilities. I’m not sure whether he’s looking for the same thing, but at least I don’t want to have regrets for any longer. Things that recently happened in my life have changed my perspectives and I don’t want to wait for the perfect moment for things to happen any more.
The problem is I don’t really text guys first, ever. But outside of LinkedIn, we don’t really have any other means of contact. So it’s not possible to just “bump into” him. I’m thinking about text him like:
Hey, long time no see. Thanks for connecting with me. How are you?
And see how things go.
How can I get back in touch with a soon-to-be ex-colleague that I'm interested in when the only way I have of contacting him is via LinkedIn? I'd like to make him aware that this is not a casual thing but a friendly coffee to get to know each other.