I have been with my girlfriend for 7 weeks now. We are both 31. During that time she has gotten really angry with me 4-5 times over things that I said. When she gets angry she says that our relationship can't work out because our natures are incompatible. Everytime I feel that what I had said wasn't so offensive that she should break up with me. But she gets sad and stressed out for about a day each time. I really don't like to see her sad.
The last time she got angry over these things.
- She is not working and doesn't have any money. I have lent her about 1.5 times my monthly salary so that she could repay her debts. And I got her a bunch of other crap. So one day she has remarked a few times that she has spent a lot of my money. I can't hide that I wanna say something but I am not saying it. She prods. I said, "You are like other expensive girlfriends, just that my expenses are no fun". She says, "Why not fun?". I said, "It's not like I'm spending on things like trips, etc. I am paying for your day to day needs.". She later told me she was offended by this because I was "making her feel obligated or indebted" (there's a phrase for that in our native language) to me.
- I was saying how unlucky I have been in life and sharing an anecdote. She said, "Maybe you met a girl like me because you are unlucky." I did not comment. She told me later that she was offended by that. I didn't ask why.
- She was humming something. I said, "Why are you weeping?". I was just teasing her. But she got offended and eventually brought up points 1 & 2 as well. She said I was mean and not compassionate.
I didn't say any of these things in an angry or mocking tone. I take lending money casually and I have helped my friends in their time of need several times. I don't keep asking her to pay me back or expect any favours in return. I do not really take the luck thing seriously. It's just something I find interesting to talk about. When I sing crap songs (with wrong and made up lyrics) she says she doesn't like it but I don't get offended by that and keep singing my song.
I can't imagine how people can get offended by these things. I would be fine if she had said the same things to me. I hate to hurt her feelings like this because I love her and I think she loves me too. (I guess that's why she keeps making up.)
But I don't know how to deal with her constant threats of breaking up.
Is there something really wrong with my behavior? Or are we really not meant for each other?