TL;DR: I want to communicate to my narcissistic father that it is unacceptable that he is attempting to blackmail my sister.
Refer to my past questions for more information regarding my father and what the struggles have been with him so far.
Long story short:
- I have not spoken with him since October 2018
- He refuses to let me in the driveway of his house, for some ridiculous reason of his own that he is yet to reveal
My father has sent her pictures of past birthdays spent with him and tried to communicate with her but in a very guilt-tripping way that she's ignored so far. The reason he sent her pictures today is that it is her birthday today.
So recently, my sister has been trying to get her things from his house. He has said that he won't give her things back unless she sees him (which is basically blackmail)
My goal for this conversation with him would be to email him and let him know that his interaction with my sister is unacceptable. I can't control how he sends her pictures to try and guilt trip her but holding her things over her head just to make her see him against her will is unacceptable. I want to make sure I consider all things before I go ahead and email him.
I have considered 1. not talking to him at all- would solve nothing 2. Confronting him angrily- would solve nothing 3. telling my sister to deal with it- stresses her out more and I am not a cold person
I know that the best way to deal with a narcissist is not to deal with him at all. However, this is not ideal because he still has her things. Once her things are returned, all interaction with him will end soon after.