I take a potentially toxic drug that is interacting with another drug (i.e. this is a high stakes situation). I am not happy with my current doctor's proposed method of addressing this interaction and have sought a second opinion. I am happy with the new opinion, however, the new doctor has asked me to readdress my concerns with my previous doctor. I have readdressed the issue and am still unhappy with the original doctor's opinion.
After all this I am bit concerned that this new doctor, who I will speak with shortly, will ask me how my conversation went. I don't particularly want to recount the issue, but given the stakes I will. I find the actions of the second doctor kind of demeaning. Additionally I don't want to go into what amounts to disagreement with one professional with another.
I have considered the following if the new doctor inquires regarding this disagreement:
Just giving up and providing a description of the conversation.
Stating, "I appreciate your concern, having spoken with my original doctor I still have my doubts. However, I don't want to spread confidential information between professionals."
Stating, "I greatly value your expertise in this area, however, I am uncomfortable going into this. My original doctor's response didn't address my concerns."
My concern regarding these responses is that I may alienate the new doctor in the process of setting up boundaries.
How can I (attempt to) decline to give details about my conversation with the original doctor, if the new doctor asks?
If it helps the new doctor is younger and setting up his practice. He seems very capable and doesn't have a huge ego.