I routinely have a monthly lunch with a group of people. Also, I share a WhatsApp group with the same people (that we use to organize the lunchs, but also to talk about professional novelties, comment on news...).
Now, in the last couple of years a new person has been part of the group and I have lately become fond of her. While I think that I still do not know her well enough to make too much of a fuss about it, I think it is worth to know her better to see if this could lead to something more.
We do have met a couple of times outside the group to do some promenades and talk and everything went well as far as I can tell1. Since she is rather busy lately (she has moved to a new home and is setting it up) and I do have quite free time, usually I offered to meet again whenever she felt like it, as my availability was far higher. Also, during the weekends she usually moves away from the city to her family's home.
What I did do was to propose her activities, without specifying a date (e.g. "Would you like to see film 1 that I did see announced"). Also, when she talked me about her works at her new home I offered whatever help she wanted.
Well, as I realized that my proposals were not being accepted, I stopped sending them to avoid being too "pushy", as I thought I already had made clear my disposition. Either she was not interested in meeting me (and that would be the end of all the issue) or she was busy/tired.
Now, we are set to meet again at the next month's lunch and my question is how to convey the idea that, if I am no longer proposing events, that is not because I am no longer interested in meeting her but because I feared being impolite if she was not interested.
My idea of how this would go is that I should not bring the issue into the conversation2 and only answer if asked.
The issue is that the explanation that I can think of is plainly "Since you did not ask to meet me I thought you were not interested". But I fear it could be interpreted as if I were vindicative about the fact that we stopped meeting and/or that I considered that she had an obligation to call me, both of which are not very smart things to say.
So the question is: how to communicate the above message while minimizing the risk of giving the impression that I mean that she had some obligation to setup a new meeting.
PS: It is in Western Europe, in case the local culture is relevant.
1I am not the smartest person when it comes to communicate with people, though, but still I am fairly sure that I did not do any gaffe.
2Unless there is an answer here that explains how to do it elegantly, but I am almost sure that being the one to bring the issue is a BAD idea.