I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the barbecue and when I came back, they'd left (they were not feeling well because of a combination of tiredness and too much drinking).
I really liked talking to them and they told me the feeling was mutual. I'd like to see whether we could become friends. The thing is, I don't know how to tell them I'd like to either chat online or meet - in order to see if we could become friends - without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them. They know I'm married but I didn't have the chance to see whether they were bothered by it because I told them shortly before I left to help my friend. We talked about meeting again for coffee but that was before they knew about my spouse so I don't know whether that was supposed to be a date.
I'd like to befriend them but I don't want them to think something romantic could happen between us. I don't have their number but we're friends on social media. They haven't talked to me online since the party, except when I asked them whether they were feeling okay after leaving because of illness.
How could I tell them that I'd like to keep talking to them and see if we can become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them?
- I've had trouble in the past where I tried to befriend someone who then thought I wanted to date them. I'm autistic and my way of expressing interest in getting to know someone is sometimes likely to be confused with romantic interest.
- If it's not possible to convey my interest in a friendship without seeming romantically interested, then I'd rather not contact them again.
- They told me they're single when we were discussing.