Related to this but when on a due circumstance autism diagnosis requires to be disclosed. Such as workplace bullying or public transport or an abusive work environment or to claim a government facility such as a transport fee concession etc. Unfortunately people tend to say some or some form of the statement
"You don't look autistic"
It hurts. Because it dismisses a life evading experience which is difficult to explain in brief, is very tricky, and unfamiliar. Not only hurts, it imperts a forceful belief of vague positivity that don't match my life experience.
Sometimes this is so extreme that I feel like there should be an entire subject on how many ways people react when they meet a disclosure of ASD diagnosis. The variants of the statement includes like
You don't look disabled.
You must not have the percentage of disability otherwise you wont be able to argue with so much sharp logic/ clear language/ cunning wit/ interesting analogies .
We accept you are just a little bit childish or eccentric/ yes you look a little bit autistic but you do not face as much disability as your prescriptions/ test reports say. They must be fraudulent or erroneous.
Since you have achieved difficult academic degrees so you cannot be autistic.
Since you are so friendly and cooperative its not autiism.
Stop giving these weird scientific explanations, we know you enough so we don't believe it.
You are not trying hard enough/ you have not tried hard enough to learn this norm/ you are pampered overnurtured/ torture of real life will make you prepared. Its not your ASD but its just you who are choosing to be pampered this way.
Since some people told/validated you that you have difficulty in those social understandings, so you have not worked hard enough on it.
Shame on you how you dare to disclose such negative? You might be seeking sympathy or being help vamp without triying hard yourself.
This single repeatitive experience made me very much afraid of disclosing the official dx. My question is; is there really any appropriate or nice way to disclose asd dx? (if necessary). My terapists recommend disclosure at least for safety reasons but destructive criticisms keep coming.
As I saw; telling people to google it is being considered as sort of offensive and revolts with reactions like you should not google about medical conditions and medical matter, though therapists encouraged me and parents to google about research article.