So we have a groupchat on messenger which includes all family members (20 persons) now 1 girl posted a picture of a magazine in which her picture is.
A lot of aunts said: "wow you look great!" etc. And 1 uncle responded "are you in [Dutch magazine name]? :D"
This was my uncle way of saying in a joking way that she looks awesome. The dutch magazine always has covers of girls, sometimes in swimsuits or dressed a bit seductivaly but NEVER nude or topless.
The girl reacted back "this is very inappropriate, as a young woman I don't want reactions like this. I want that people appreciate me for who I am and not for my looks! If I was a boy I wouldn't receive such reactions."
The thing is in the groupchat we laugh with every family member, fat, old, small, black or white. Its just our family humour.
3 uncles and a nephew left the conversation because they don't want to watch every word they say and think that she overreacted.
How to deal with situations like this?