I think that the major reason your strategy isn't producing the results you want is because you've overinterpreted a very precise piece of information, and have based your entire approach around that overinterpretation
The single most difficult element of your situation seems to me to be this:
A few years ago, I read online that men and women communicate differently, specifically that men do not like to talk face to face and women like to talk face to face.
But from what I read online, men don't want to talk to women.
That is a very strong conclusion, and one which you seem to be assuming is 100% correct in all circumstances with no nuances.
This is one of the many, many situations where a generalization about a group is wrong (or, at least, unhelpful). Do some men not want to talk to any women, under any circumstances? Almost certainly. Do all men feel that way, under all circumstances? Definitely not. For a facile, not-scientific example, consider that I am a man, and I have no aversion to speaking with a woman simply because she is a woman.
(My one complaint about Juliana's otherwise excellent answer on this same question is that the same mistake is presented as a centerpiece: even if "men" don't like speaking face-to-face on average, that tells you little or nothing about a specific man. As another personal example, I have no general preference between speaking with someone side-by-side or face-to-face. Sitting side-by-side is not a silver bullet solution to your problem.)
There are definitely specific, individual people that I don't like speaking with, for a variety of reasons, and there are certain specific times when I don't really want to speak to anyone. In those particular circumstances I would be happier not speaking with another person (a specific person in the former case, and any person in the latter).
On a date, the default assumption is that each person will pay attention to the other and will interact. Otherwise, what is the point of being together in the first place? Some people really enjoy conversation on dates, others may prefer to do activities, or have other preferences for how dates unfold. Few, if any, people like to go on a date to be actively ignored by the person they're with. I, too, would feel extremely insulted to go on a date with a woman who declined any interaction with me and read a book or worked on a laptop.
I would ask questions along the lines of "why did she even suggest/agree to coming out tonight, if she would prefer this totally solitary activity?". As a man who has had dates with women, and seen a wide variety of enthusiasm for conversation on those dates, let me tell you clearly: never once was it easier for me, nor did it comfort or put me at ease, to spend time with a woman who refused to converse or engage with me in any way.
So whatever other signals you may be sending, your dates are almost certainly perceiving your behavior as indicating a strong lack of interest in them (at minimum). Someone who is on a date with you has already indicated that they think they will enjoy spending time with you just by being on that date. I don't think that constant conversation is a necessary element of every date, but it would be wise to show some interest in the other person. Without that they might think that you are simply not interested in them, and they may not enjoy the dates. I, and many others, am not really interested in dating someone that isn't interested in me, nor in going on dates I don't enjoy.
What can you do instead?
A good first step would be to cultivate some more skepticism about things that you generically "read online". The quality of information on the internet varies wildly.
A good second step is to recall that you are not going on dates with "men" (the overall group of individual men), nor are you going on dates with men who are a composite of the statistical average of varying traits among all men. You are going out with a single, individual person. It will always be better to treat that person as an individual, and work to get to know them individually, than to assume that you have a lot of actionable information because you "know" about "men" generally based on an internet article.
A good third step is to think about ways that you can pay attention to someone you are on a date with, and engage with them. Conversation can do that, but it isn't the only way and so if you yourself are not excited about conversing there are other options. Going to see a movie is a low-conversation way to spend some time with another person. Activities, like mini golf or visiting a museum, let you do something together but don't require conversation to feel like more than nothing is happening.