I have a lady that I've dated once.
Since that date, we did not have many interactions except some text messages as she is a MD and my mum has some health issues and we are discussing, from time to time on that. We also happen to know some friends together, just know.
She became a platonic acquaintance, from my perspective, until I received a text message recently saying, that she had a special fondness for me. Thing is it is not mutual ...
Our unique date was the least to say dull, nothing to say, no sparkle, close to boring. She is really a nice person, honestly but from my perspective, you need a bit of sparkling, mutual interest and respect, which I feel she did not give me on that date.
I feel I should have cut that link much sooner but she probably discovered me more, through that interaction with my mum. Issue for me is that at least, this kind of interest should have been given much earlier and remember, sometimes we do not send any text messages for weeks.
How do I say to her, that I am not interested, in a nice manner, without maybe saying explicitly, if possible? Have not misunderstood her text message as she is not French, which makes my understanding, maybe wrong?
Some of you may think I should be more upfront but French society does not work like that. Often, you have to keep a quiet lid without being too outspoken. Saving faces is an important part of the social game. Being too upfront is a sure way to create quickly enemies or worse, resentment and to close doors.
Being indirect is a nice way to say no. Remember, I know close to nothing about her, how she will react in hearing news that does not fit her. The lady being not French adds to complexity of what can be said and what must be kept implicit. After giving many thoughts and with Astralbee's answer, I've decided to be courteous but indirect.
In this case, I saw her yesterday. I say Hi, smile to her , did not eye contact when not necessary. I did not mention my mum.
She understood that I was not interested to go further. She did not contact me by text message. And if she is coming back later, I will be more frank, in a courteous manner.