I have gamed/worked with people from all over the world. I don't remember ever coming across that emoji. Although I probably have seen it, I can tell you is not common and not everyone will understand it.
If you want an answer from a global comunity point of view, the answer is:
No, is not common across many countries/cultures. Very few emojis are understood across a lot of countries, universally.
However if someone where to come to me acting like you described. I would understand it.
There is a difference between real life and the emoji. In real life the general body language tells the story, even if you never saw it before you could probably tell its meaning and see that the other person is trying to tell you something and is not feeing all that comfortable about it. (saying sorry or asking for help, etc)
Someone said this is a Japanese thing, I am not sure about that; to be honest I think is related with how kids behave. Finger fidgeting, playing with the tip of the foot, etc. The emoji however probably is Japanese, on that topic I bow to better expertise.
Now, I feel this is part of how you talk and how you interact and you would prefer not to give it up. Because it probably comes to you naturally. I actually had a similar experience with this emoji: XD
I am a bit of an old timer when it comes down to emojis and in general I don't use the images use the letters.
Long ago when I started working with people from other places over the internet, basically remote teams I had issues a couple of times where people thought I was angry or rude when I was just "business". I realized this was because of the way I expressed myself on writing is nothing like what I do when I talk, all smiles and all. You lose all the non-verbal communication. I didn't want to cause any discomfort or undue friction with my coworker so I started to use emojis to convey emotion. If you see a smiley face is easier to imagine the other person is not angry.
Since I type very fast I normally used the letters and not the actual images. Most people understand very common ones like: :D :P :) :O etc, so it inmidiately improved my relationships with coworkers. However since at the time I used to talk with some friends that liked to use XD, a lot of my coworkers and people I knew in general got confused by it. Especially because I was using the letters and not the image.
Also you have to remember in a very diverse group you will older people, or older souls you could say, that may not be so up to date with this kind of thing.
If you want to keep using this emoji, because you really like it and feel it conveys your emotion well, basically because is part of the way you communicate, you can. Just have to adapt a bit:
- If you are talking with someone that knows you: you continue using it like always.
- If you are talking with someone new: don't use it, build some rapport, get to know them. Understand their communication style so you know it won't be a problem if you use it.
- If you are taking with someone that you don't know so well: use the acompanning text. Like use the emoji and reinforce it with the text. Like when you said:
I know this may bother you, but I'd really appreciate if you could
help me 😬👉👈
Be careful not to seem rude though. Because when you said:
Sorry: that was probably my fault
Depending of the situation, adding a silly emoji can take away from the seriousness of the apology.
- If you are in a group chat always use the emoji with the text saying what you feel.
Be ready to explain what you mean with that emoji.
Emojis are all right for chat, but adapt to the person you are talking with. Some people don't like them so use them sparingly.
Avoid using emojis in business emails, unless you know them very well and there is certain level of familiarity with the other person. Because if they don't understand it they are not able to ask you right away what you mean. Also since you use it in an "oops" kind of situation, in an email it can actually be read like rude very easily. And as someone else pointed out, it seems less professional.
Chat is ephemere, email is made to last. Chat is a two way communication, email is really not. The other person can not ask you right away what you meant. And if they think something you wrote is odd they will just remain with the weird feeling and probably not ask. Although this can happen on chat since you have less time to think, they most likely will ask before stopping themselves. Also, chat in general is implicitly private, emails can be shared and resent, so you really never know who is going to be reading it in the end.
Someone people said they wouldn't understand it and so they adviced that you shouldn't use it. I don't agree you shoud use it sparingly. The idea of a diverse environment, is precisely that, diversity! If we all abandon everything that makes us unique there is no diversity anymore. Just be careful and don't over do it. And be mindful that a lot of people won't understand it. Just explain it with a smile.
People know I use XD, and find it endearing or funny. I don't use it in work emails or with people that I don't have certain level of rapport because I don't want to confuse them.