I live alone and I just love it. I have a girlfriend (of 5 years) who I also love, and since the start of our relationship I've told her that "living together would not happen."
To make a long story short -- her parents are getting divorced and she will be homeless. So she told me she will move into my house, until she finds a place to live. Two months, she said.
I'm glad to help and I know she is in a time of need. However I'm terrified by the prospect of things getting too comfortable and staying that way.
What if she does not look for a place? If it takes too long, how can I tell her I still want her to leave? How can I make her leave without breaking up? How can I enforce that this is a temporary thing without hurting our relationship? How can I make it clear without looking like I'm constantly trying to evict her?
To be clear, I like our relationship (that's what I'm trying to preserve) but I just don't believe in living together. I guess she understands my position, I'm just looking for a way to keep it clear and not let plans change over time.
My reasons: I like having my own space, my house is my kingdom, I love the silence, the loneliness, the freedom. Sorry if that sounds selfish, but that's it.