I used to have a transwoman friend who was waiting to become financially strong before thinking about transitioning. I was going through some stressful times and we used to discuss our issues. She was very pessimistic about the future and I used to try uplifting her mood, with mixed outputs. But with time I got irritated with the pessimistic behavior and her repetitive use of "your life is easier", "you can never understand, etc". With time, calls and texts reduced and even disappeared for a while.
When we used to talk, there was nothing more than friendly concern from my side and I had no attraction to her. She was just my online friend who I still have some concerns for, but nothing romantic.
I have a habit of attempting to get in touch with old friends and tried with her too but it ended badly. I came to know she had feelings for me and we had a long emotional chat as she was not comfortable with a call. She said that her desire to have a relation with a guy and me being there for her and talking to her developed into one-sided feelings from her. She told me how she blocked all guys from her life and was trying to fix her financial situation which was not going well either.
She told me how she was expecting me to never message again and some of our past arguments she did on purpose so I would get irritated and never talk to her. I tried to calm her down and clear my side. She also knows it and only said positive things about me, but she said it's difficult for her to stay in touch with me due to her one-sided feelings towards me.
After this conversation, I was in a dilemma about how to continue this conversation in the future and it kind of died down. She did ask for a favor once, later, which I was not able to help with.
So I wanted to still be there for her as a well-wisher without hurting her feelings. How could I have dealt with the situation better?
Note: It has nothing to do with my previous question on a similar topic. This happened half a year ago approx.