Hard to explain the question in the title, but anywho.
My husband has this tendency to do something and do it almost completely, but stop one step short, or just take a shortcut. A few examples:
- Toilet paper roll runs out in the bathroom so he gets a new one, but instead of taking the old cardboard tube off the dispenser, he just rests the new roll on top. So then I have to go in and replace the roll properly.
- Gets something from the pantry and pushes the door closed but doesn't click it all the way. Cat goes in and has a buffet.
- Tea runs out, so he gets a new box from the pantry, adds the new box to the shelf, but leaves the previous empty box on the shelf.
Honestly, it's little stuff, each individual one doesn't burden me that much, but combined I find myself spending a lot of time every evening tidying things up after him.
When I see the open pantry door, I always ask him to please close it in the future (but I close it), I even taught our dog to close the door because of how old this got. Generally I try to ask him to finish up what he half-finished immediately, but it hasn't had any effect (and also sometimes I don't see him doing it) so far.
I believe he was babied by his mom his entire life (his mom is great to be fair), and he doesn't fully understand the amount of housework that is involved in a regular day.
How can I convey to him that if he just finishes the task, it would free up some of my time too? How can I bring this up without accusing him of anything and him getting defensive?