About 3 years ago I moved from Canada to Ireland.
While I didn't have many friends in Canada, I have a friend that I've been very close to for over 20 years. In the first 2 years after I moved to Ireland, my friend was going on Skype with me. After the birth of my second child last year she stopped going on Skype with me.
She has still kept in touch with me through instant messaging. I'm finding it difficult to really know in detail what's going on in her life and in my hometown over fragmented instant messages and a phone call or a Skype call would be better even if it was just once every few months.
I asked her why she doesn't want to go on Skype and she just says things like, 'Oh the time zone difference is too large and I go to my other friend's house on my days off'. I understand that but I don't understand why she can't spend 20 mins on Skype once and a while.
I do know that some things are bothering her such as turning 30 without having a child and her own family moving away leaving her in our hometown etc.
I'm feeling frustrated and I fear that we could grow apart eventually if she can't put more effort in. I told her that I was planning to visit Canada next year and she did say that she was excited.
I guess I am living in a different world, a different culture and I'm losing touch with what's going on back in my hometown and it's possible that I could forget completely.
How can I bring this up with her without causing conflict?