Just today I had two events:
I have been to this cafe for half a year, and every time I ordered milk tea without condensed milk. It was the same 2, 3 waitresses who took order from me, close to every single day. Today, I just said, "The tuna sandwich, and the milk tea please". When the milk tea came, it was with condensed milk. I said to the waitress, it was sweet. And she said with an attitude and rolling her eyes, "You did not say without condensed milk today AND we are NOT TO remember you do not want condensed milk" and just walked away. The attitude was like, "we take 3 dollars from you as the tip and is 90 dollars every month, but the hell with you." Actually, I usually order $10 worth of food and $10 to go, so the total is $20, so people said I should really tip for the $10, because the other $10 is to-go. But I just tip $3 just out of kindness. Most people said I could have just tipped $1.50 and it should be fine. I somehow get the vibe from them it is best I gave them as much money as possible. 20% tip better, 25% even better. But when it is about doing their job with at least a little bit of heart, the hell with all customers. Could it be that they are just too busy to remember all customers? Sometimes when I go, they only have 2 or 3 tables with customers. There are times when they have 7 or 8 tables of customers, but half of the time I go, it was only 2, 3 tables. It is almost like they have nothing much to do, just standing there chatting with each other.
In 2009, there was swine flu, and my bone and muscle sore, and I stayed home and almost slept 20 hours a day. My teacher told us in high school: a flu takes 7 days to heal if you see a doctor, and takes one week to heal if you don't see a doctor. (because the virus situation is cured by our body's own immune system, not by any medication in the world, which is different from bacteria situation (virus vs bacteria)). I might even feel it can be worse if I go to the doctor's office, because during the 30 minute wait in the public waiting area, if I get other virus or bacteria from other patients, then I will get into even worse situation. When I got back to work, they asked whether I had doctor's note. I said no, but I said I had receipt of myself buying one air-purifier in the local Bed Bath and Beyond, and two more from Amazon, because I was at first wondering if it was due to pollen or contaminants. And then one hour later, they fired me. Today I talked to my hair dresser about it. She said she knew of somebody in that situation, but that person had a doctor note, and he sued, and the judge made a judgment that the company had to pay him one year of salary as penalty. She said the difference was I didn't have a doctor note and the company knew they can bully me, because if I didn't have a doctor's note, even if I sue, who can "prove" that I really was sick?
I really don't know why people and company treat other people like trash. How should I deal with that, and have a good emotional health? I think there are sayings such as
- all living things excrete every day, but you just don't pay attention to that.
- you walk down the path, and there will be road, concrete, mud, sand, and there will be trash, dirt, animal excretion, and you just don't pay attention to the last ones.
- use your smile to change the world; don't let the world change your smile.
But sometimes those feel like "wishful thinking" or just "words that try to comfort you". Is there a way to truly accept these things and live a somewhat happy life, with the bad treatments you encounter in daily life, either from people or from a company that you might even think you want to do your best work for?