My mom died about 1.5 years ago of cancer. I'm 31 and have always been a Mama's boy, I'm proud of it, I'm an extremely good cook, I can darn my socks and so on.
Since my mom died tho, I have been really lacking in some areas, mostly social and tending to my garden. I'm starting back up now and people are going like "your mom would be proud" or "your mom would love to see that" or stuff like that.
While I do think my mom is still watching me, anyone except my dad (her husband) assuming stuff about my mom is extremely hurtful to me.
I do understand that I've been hard to talk to and those people try to support me, but they're actually hurting me by assuming about my mom. I would be extremely grateful for their praise if they left my mom out of it.
How can I gently tell them to leave my mom out of their praise?