After coming home from splurging on groceries and excited to cook, my roommate told me that this living situation was no longer working for him and that I should look for housing elsewhere. He cited three reasons:
- I couldn't keep the kitchen tidy, his words were "like no one was there"
- I jeopardized our health by going back to work during the pandemic
- I was bringing bad vibes into the place and it was making him uncomfortable
The kitchen thing started off as benign requests here and there. But he would end up reproaching me for leaving the kitchen too dirty. I made continuous efforts to clean more thoroughly but he said it was only getting worse and worse.
I'm now just going hungry petrified to even enter the kitchen. I was self-conscious before whenever I was in there, but now I really can't imagine cooking there since it's one of the reasons he's throwing me out. Just being more tidy isn't a good solution because I thought that's what I was doing and it escalated to me being thrown out with the other factors. There aren't a lot of food options out these days and at work it's just snacks. While I'm looking for a way to leave this living situation, I need to eat at home and don't want all my fresh produce to go to waste.
What interpersonal skills can I use to defuse this tension with my roommate so I don't feel scared to use the kitchen?