A little backstory: I am a 25 year old man. About 3 years ago I started dating a woman and we lived happily. Some points it seemed too perfect. I mean we never argued. Maybe this caused the breakup.
So at this year late January, she said, she didn't feel love anymore. So we ended our relationship. (I could laugh at myself, I got friend zoned during the relationship.)
Maybe it was a fast decision, but I feel devastated, betrayed. After thinking a long time, I came to realize we messed up. I talked with her after one week of the breakup, and she said what may have caused it.
We never talked about our problems, and besides that, I left her alone two times. I mean I had other activities but I didn't recognize she wanted to be with me. Okay, I accept that I should have seen that. (Of course she also could say she wanted to be with me)... never mind, I accept it as I made a mistake, BUT I never knew about this mistake until after the breakup.
I haven't met with her since. (We texted a few times on Facebook, but not anything important.) Now we agreed that we will talk again in a few weeks.
I feel like I must talk to her about this, that we messed it up together, and we ran away from the problems instead of solving them. I don't want to apologize, and I won't beg to be together again, no matter how much I want this. The best outcome would be if we could start dating again and earn each other's trust again.
I think I learned a lot from this, and I feel I have a new view about love and life.
How can I explain this to her when we talk?