Note: this has nothing to do with the current pandemic.
I don't like physical contact, especially kisses and especially when I don't fully trust the person touching me.
Also, my current relationship with my mother isn't really great so I really hate it when I am physically close to her (like during dinner) or when I have to kiss her (to say hello or goodbye).
The other day, my sister refused to kiss my mother and she didn't take it well.
Now, I am trying to stand up for myself and to not kiss anyone if I don't want to (or, of course, if the other person doesn't want me to).
However, I am afraid of my mother's reaction the next time I will refuse to kiss. I don't want to lie to her and I want a "soft" way to tell her that I won't kiss her because I don't want to.
Here are some of the things that my mother is likely to think/say:
That I don't like her (it's not true. However, it is true that I am always angry with her)
That I don't want to please her (but I don't think it's right that I have to hurt my own feelings in order to please her)
So, how can I refuse to kiss her while being tactful/minimizing her hurt feelings?
Some more details
I am talking here about a "lip to cheek" kiss. It's a more intimate version of "la bise" because we are close family.
I don't mind saying "hello" to my mother. I just don't want any physical contact or close proximity to be involved.