I am 24 years old, financially independent for the last 5 years and I live on my own as well. I'm a straight A student, happily engaged. Yet all members of my family communicate to me like I'm a little child.
My parents only got over it that I am going to travel with my fiancee last year after numerous heated arguments. They always want to control everything I do. I still am not getting married because I cannot convince them it is not the type of wedding that I want. But because of the way they treat me, the rest of the family does the same.
My grandmother is discussing my living arrangements with them without even talking to me about anything. My cousins make remarks about my clothing, my personal things and give me advice like I'm five years old. I think there must be something that I am doing wrong, but I do not know what it is. Not sure if it matters, but in a work environment or elsewhere no one treats me that way.
How do I prevent others from treating me like a child? Whenever I try to tell them this directly they do not listen to me. Whenever I display my emotions to show that I am not happy about this they simply say I should not frown. The only thing that has worked is socially distancing, but I do not want that. I come from the Balkans.