When our landlady comes into our place she always brings a relative. When they talk to us they use english. When they talk to each other they use their native tongue, which they know we don't understand. I feel this is disrespectful, rude and shady. How can I politely say to them that if they don't want me to know what they are saying, or they don't want me to be part of the full conversation, then they can leave my home to have their conversation. Being cut in and out of a conversation that is related to me and my home gets aggravating quickly. It feels like they are hiding things.

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    Hi Eldonna! How often does this happen? Also, do you know if said relative is proficient in English? This information will help us know how to best address your situation. – avazula Jun 26 at 5:48
  • I'm making the assumption that you live in an English-speaking country? – F1Krazy Jun 26 at 8:57
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    Woooooaaaah!! Seriously, this information about you being in courts with them with 3 trials pending should have been included in the question. You not wanting to hear any language you don't understand in your house is not a right you can enforce. If your landlady is visiting your house for repairs and maintenance, this is of course legit and I don't think she will have much simpathy for your requirements after four legal battles between you and them. – Rekesoft Jun 29 at 13:35
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    You are considering "I'm really tired of being disrespected ... then please go outside." That harshness would be disrespectful, while you are concerned with "disrespect from them." Can't you just flash a big smile and say Sorry, I don't understand! You do not have to instruct them on what language to speak. – Yosef Baskin Jun 29 at 16:11
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    It isn't about what you are tempted to blurt out. It's about what results you want. – Yosef Baskin Jul 1 at 14:31

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