My friends and I are in our mid twenties and have a small friendship group of around 6-7 of us. We have been friends since school, so for around 15 years.
More and more I have noticed scenarios where one of the group does a lot of very minor selfish actions which, as isolated incidents, are not a problem - we all do them from time to time. However these are not isolated incidents, these are frequent and consistent. For example if 7 of us walked into a bar and there were 6 seats, they would have to have one of the seats. They would also never volunteer to do anything to help the group that would inconvenience themselves in the slightest, whereas all of the other members of the group would.
I don't have any major issues with this person and I do consider them one of my closest friends, however all these displays of poor etiquette frustrate me. Also I am not the only one in the group to think this - the majority of the group agree with me.
I am usually the one to speak up and tell this person they can't always get their own way but this often results in this person getting upset and me feeling bad as a result as they probably think I am bullying them.
So how do I point out the flaws in their etiquette without sounding like I am bullying them?
Or, even better, how would I encourage my other friends, who very rarely speak up, to point out the flaws in their etiquette in order to make it seem like a group consensus rather than just my opinion?