My mom is always trying to get me to do household chores like washing dishes, brooming, cooking, cleaning, etc. I hate that she is the designated person for doing chores in our household. I strongly believe that chores should be equally split among everyone in a household. That said, it’s unfair how my mom only targets me when she wants chores done. One time I confronted her about it and she admitted that due to our culture (we’re Pakistani), she specifically asks me to do house work because I’m a girl.
Meanwhile, my brother who is 18 rarely gets asked to do anything, and my mom is constantly covering for him and making excuses. Yes, my brother does have a job, but it is a part time job and he doesn’t even work everyday. Regardless, it’s his responsibility to do his fair share of chores, and it’s not my fault that he has a job; I shouldn’t have to pay the price for his decisions.
I understand that ultimately I should listen to my parents and do what they say (I’m only 16 after all), but when their initiatives are based on discriminatory ideas like sexism, I just don’t want to take part in any of it.
I’ve suggested creating a system of chores where we switch chores weekly, but no one takes it seriously.
I don’t know what to do now to convey the idea and explain to my mom that she should stop targeting me. How can I do this?