A few months ago I moved into a new home. I share it with 2 other people. One of my roommates started a new job recently. She worked in the office the first week but told me she prefers to work from home. Now she is having very loud video conference meetings in the living room. Given the layout of our home, I have to pass by the living room often and I can hear her talking from my room with the door closed.
There are two or three problems with this:
- The noise she makes
- I don't want strangers seeing a video of me in my home
- It's not really the intended use for a shared space for one person to use it as their office
I haven't talked to her yet but was thinking something like "could you have your work meetings in your own room? I'm not really comfortable being on video with strangers and it's a rather loud".
Recently I had a guest over at night and she complained about the level of music. I have a feeling she may be intentionally acting loud now to "get back at me", but I may be reading too much into the situation. She and I have different work schedules. (She's had guests over at the same time I did so I thought it was ok)
What's the best way of addressing this to minimize the chances of animosity? I'm expecting she will argue when I ask her to work in her room.
In my experience having lots of rules is counter productive. For example if she asks me not to have guests over after a certain time, I would be less likely to be ok with her watching TV after that time. But I guess I would like one about work must be done in your own room.
My roommates are from other countries. The one making the noise is from Africa. I want to ask a separate question but think this is related, when I first met her she said "black people are loud" so I'm afraid it could be construed as racist if I tell her she's being loud.
My other roommate and I talked to her about having virtual meetings in the shared space. She wasn't able to understand. She said she normally uses a virtual background so privacy wasn't an issue. I told her it was also the noise. She argued the TV could be on a making noise. I tried to explain that's different because the TV must go in the shared area but she didn't understand. She's even talking about connecting her laptop to the TV for the meetings which I think is even less fair. I'm hoping I don't have to escalate the issue to the landlord.