My mother will judge me all the time. She screams at me saying something like "You are so old already; you should know by now that one has to do this thing in this way and not in that way".
To give a recent example: I went to a new city and bought a set of ten tickets for the subway. I used them and and then a subway staff member came and controlled my tickets. It turned out that I used them incorrectly. Then I got fined. I told my mother about it and she had absolutely no consideration for my feelings and just condemned my wrong way of using those tickets. I don't care about the fine. I just want my mother to accept my thinking, even if I get fined for it by some random subway staff member.
This is only one random example out of so many. My father also gets judged by my mother all the time. Once I made a very long trip to another country and then came back. My father told me that I should describe everything that I experienced in that country and write it all down. And he said, "You can write it down in English, if you don't want your mother to read it". Basically, everyone in my family is trying to avoid her judgement.
I already tried very hard to improve the situation in two ways:
I didn't have contact with my mother for three months. Didn't speak with her at all and didn't call her and didn't accept her calls. That didn't work. Once I stopped not having contact and told her something about what I've done, she started judging my thoughts once again. And saying that she's just "trying to help" and I should "listen to her and learn".
I have gone to a church and been baptized. This was just a few months ago. Since then I'm trying to forgive my mother for judging me. One of the ways I was trying to forgive my mother for judging me, was by telling her that I forgive her right in the middle of her judgement speech. I did it in that recent ticket situation: While she was telling me how stupud I am not to know how to use a ticket, I told her that "I forgave her for saying that". I didn't really feel any forgiveness towards her, but I thought, maybe saying it is better than not saying it. She just ignored it.
Sometimes I'd like my mother to accept my thinking and say something like "Even though you think seemingly wrong things, I believe that your way of thinking will pay off in the long term"
Question: How can I get my mother to express less negative judgement?
I don't expect quick-to-do solutions. This is my life-long challenge. So if you only have one or two hints at how to approach the problem, I would be more than grateful. Thank you :)
Additional info: I am a 26 year old male living in Germany. I and my whole family are originally from Kazakhstan. My mother and I communicate in Russian. My mother doesn't speak English.