Background: My father and I live in different countries. I moved a few years ago on account of my job. My father is a curious person who likes to read and understand whatever he can find.
He retired a couple of years ago and ever since, he started to spam our family chat group with whatever he thinks is useful. I understand that his intention is good. However, it can get a bit too much often.
At first I would read his messages(forwards or links) or watch the videos he sent me. However, once it became a little too much, I started to ignore them in the family group. There are many things he would forward which is misinformation and I used to validate them and inform my father that what he is sending is not true and he has to fact check it before forwarding it to others. After that, the spam did not stop. Instead they came with a disclaimer "I'm only forwarding something I received and do not guarantee the information being passed on". I presume whoever sent it to my father added this because I would receive that as the forwarded message. After which, I ignored if my father messaged unless it was addressed to someone specifically.
This was going fine until he stopped spamming the family group and started sending those messages to me directly. I continued to ignore them. However, sometimes when we talk on videocalls etc, he refers to some of those spam messages he sent me and says something about it. If I say I did not see that message, he insists I do that.
Truth is, I most of what he sends are things I am not interested in. Some are religious and I am not. So, even if he insists I see what he sent me, I am certain I won't like them. There are a few messages he sends which are good. But that number does not match with the ones I don't want to see. This is to the extent that I can do without his spam.
Post retirement, he does not have much to do, so he does this and I had to mute both my family group and my father to avoid the constant alerts on my phone. My concern is that, by muting, there is chance that I might miss something important.
Question: How do I tell my father to either reduce the spam frequency or even stop without hurting his feelings or make him feel I don't like getting his messages?