Me, personally speak my mind. For example, if someone asks for my opinion about a shoe and if I think it is ugly I just say it. I'm not rude or don't want to be mean. It is ugly in my opinion but it may be a good shoe naturally. But people don't take this well most of time and I don't know why.
I have a female best friend. We've been good friends for a very long time. Sometimes, arguments happen, and it's natural. What is important is to talk and figure it out. She is always criticizing me like "why are you playing dark souls when there are fun games like ori and something (I don't remember the name)". these critics don't bother me. I do what makes me happy not doing something that satisfy people. I eat pizza with fork and spoon and that's how I enjoy it the most.
The problem is that this time we had an argument that made me really angry. I can't figure it out nor solve it. When you are angry, you may say harsh things and I know her. When you know someone you may say things that you can't give it back.
My best friend is kpop fan. I was talking to another friend about music. I said "kpop is crap". We were just comparing genres about how they lyrics are deep and is not about ordinary things. She got angry and yelled "EXCUSE ME? KPOP IS LIFE AND ...". when she finished I said:
I meant no harm to anyone and you know that, and if I think kpop is crap it doesn't make the whole career a crap thing, kpop will go on without my opinion.
Then she said if I say things like that about kpop she will cancel the friendship and won't talk to me again. That made me really angry. Until this time I couldn't find words to solve this situation.
I always were there for her, helping with life and education, always support her and she wants to cancel friendship due to Korean boys that they even don't know she exists.
I want to keep our friendship and handle this. I didn't do anything wrong to apologize. I think she is the one to apologize but she never does that so I don't expect this to be solved by apologizing solution.
How can I communicate with her that, despite people having different opinions, the value of our friendship is more than things like this?