This is about my mothers husband (let's call him Bob for now). I visit them from time to time, and they are mostly pleasant to be around.
However, Bob has the tendency to blurt out completely false statements. And when I try to explain that to him, he just gets defensive, and starts repeating his statements without listening. This behavior is worse when he is drunk, which is most of the time. (He is trying to get off alcohol, but I don't think full recovery is realistic.)
So we get stuck in this loop of him repeating his statements and me trying to correct him. Last time I lost my temper and said something along the lines of "Please shut up for now". Which was successful, but not very pleasant for either party.
Me: "I decided to continue my study, I probably still need to write a thesis and a research for that"
Bob: "You already have more then enough work experience, can't you just skip the research and only write the thesis?"
Me: "I don't think it works like that. Reading technical documentation and implementing features is not research"
Bob: "But when you do something you need to research it, so you CAN use it for that"
Me: "There is a difference between learning to do something, and doing research. The latter involves creating new knowledge that was not available before."
Bob: "Can't you use your work experience as research?"
Me: "NO, LEARNING AND RESEARCH IS NOT THE SAME"
At this point, we just fall into repeating the same thing over and over again. I can't really continue whatever I wanted to share without restarting the discussion.
While this question is specifically about him, I have this problem with other people too. I try to keep listening, but this is not always successful.
First priority: to prevent the argument from happening
Second priority: to stop the meaningless argument without hurting Bob too much.
Third priority: To continue the conversation we had BEFORE the argument, without restarting the argument.
Winning or losing the argument is irrelevant.