When I'm sitting by myself, people sometimes come to talk to me or ask me if I'm okay. I suspect this is because when I'm not controlling my expressions, it looks like I'm scowling or frowning, and these people may assume I am sad and be concerned. I would like to let them know that I am fine in a polite manner.
This happens when I'm eating or working on something at lunch, when I'm on a bus, or in the classroom when I work by myself. A few times it was people I didn't know, but some of these are students or teachers that I am somewhat familiar with and know to just be kind people, not nosy or anything.
I have tried the following:
- Maintaining a neutral or happy expression - After a few minutes, I forget I'm supposed to be concentrating on my expression and I go back to my usual frown.
- Telling them "Yes, I'm fine" and then turning away to ignore them or pretending I'm very busy - This mostly works, but it's rude. I also get a feeling that they're not completely convinced when I tell them this. I also can't pretend to be busy when I'm just sitting there and not doing anything.
Sometimes, these people ask me to join their group or decide to start speaking to me even if I tell them I'm good, and it gets intensely awkward for everyone, because they think they are doing me a favor and being nice. How do I let people know I am okay already, even if I appreciate their concern? I'd prefer to talk to them as little as possible if I have a choice.
Details that may be relevant:
- I’m in the US
- I’m a high schooler
While this isn't a problem right now, because of the pandemic, I'd like to be prepared when things get back to normal.