Let me give you as much information as possible so you understand how I ended up in this situation:
- A couple months ago, on Valentine’s Day, I messaged my best friend who I’ve known for about two years now. I asked if she wanted to go out once lockdown was over (I made it clear it was a date).
- She initially told me that she wasn’t completely sure if she felt the same way and that she had thought about it in the past but that she needed more time to think about it.
- A few hours later, she told me that she only saw me as a friend but she appreciated my honesty.
- Since then, I’ve alternated several times between feeling sad about it and wanting to move on, and wanting to try and change things between us.
The following things have happened since I asked her out:
- We’ve grown much, much closer together and talk regularly online. I would say right now we are both each other’s closest friends. Although, she hasn’t expressed any additional romantic interest in me.
- Due to university coming soon, we’ll only be in the same place for four more months.
Because of all of this, I’ve decided I want to try my best during those four months to get together with her.
Before anyone says anything, trust me, I know it’s very very unlikely she’ll change her mind but from my perspective I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I can’t begin to express how much I like her and before I asked her out I always sensed that she might have liked me. Her initial uncertainty when I asked her out makes me think I might have asked too soon.
Something that I’ve realised since I asked her out is that I’ve unfortunately been thinking that becoming better friends is the best way to get with her.
How can I make her view me less as a friend and more as a potential partner?