My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months and enjoy going to parties together. We both always have a great time and are comfortable doing things together and splitting off to do our own thing and then reconnecting. We have a lot of the same interests which helps. We both drink but (without being insulting) my girlfriend drinks more than I do or at least often ends up more drunk. So the main thing I find challenging is how to look after her without spoiling her fun? Obviously I get worried seeing her drunk and doing things that are probably safe when sober but no so much when not eg. jumping from heights, swinging on unsafe things etc. But at the same time I don't want to act like her dad, so that fine line is hard for me, especially when surrounded by groups of people who are doing the same things she is. A few specifics now:
- What are some good ways to look after her when I can see she is not sober?
- What are some good ways to encourage her maybe it's time to go home or to slow down for a bit?
- What should I do if I'm worried about her going to the bathroom (at house party) by herself? Eg. she could slip, vomit, pass out etc.
- If a friend(s) of hers say they'll 'look after her' what should that mean for me, since I still feel responsible?
- If things get to a point where I am really concerned but not able to encourage her to leave/slow down what should I do?
We have already talked about the above together and she trusts me enough to do what I think is right to keep her safe (she's fully aware of how 'fun' she can get), it's just that how a person reacts to the above when sober vs not, is different (eg. stubborn), especially when you are having fun.
Some of the things I've tried is just being there for her until the party is over and we are pretty much forced to leave, although this can feel more like baby sitting than having a fun time together, although she has done the same for me on the rare occasion our roles were flipped so perhaps it's fine? I have tried to get her friends to help me convince her, but they aren't always sober enough and I feel bad asking them since I kind of see it as my responsibility.